Jul 18 2010

What fake emails teach you

What fake emails teach you

I saw an email (content pasted below) when I came back home from Trivandrum on Friday night. It was from an online friend who is also a blogger. The email came from his personal email ID (we have corresponded earlier) and it also had his signature at the end of the email. The subject line said “My Predicament!!!“. The content was this:

I’m writing this with tears in my eyes,my family  and I came down here
to London,England for a short vacation unfortunately we were mugged at
the park of the hotel where we stayed,all cash,credit card and cell
were stolen off us but luckily for us we still have our passports with
us.

We’ve been to the embassy and the Police here but they’re not helping
issues at all and our flight leaves in less than 3hrs from now but
we’re having problems settling the hotel bills and the hotel manager
won’t let us leave until we settle the bills.

Am freaked out at the moment.

I believed it to be genuine, because it did not mention anything about transferring money to so-and-so account. It had a genuine email signature and the by the nature of the email content, the intent seemed to be like just letting me know about the plight. I got panicked and immediately wrote to my other good friends in London. Then the sender himself wrote back saying that his email ID was hacked and somebody else sent this email. Then two of the friends I emailed wrote back saying that this email is a fake email and it had been in circulation for a long time! One of those friends already had written a blog post about it. Looks I am the last one to know about it. So the first thing I want to tell you all is to be beware of this email if it comes to you!

But there was a good side to this whole story. Within 39 minutes of my email to the friends requesting to help the blogger friend, a friend from London wrote back leaving two contact phone numbers of his. He also checked to see if they had any guests in the hotel in that name. I mean if the incidents in the email were true, the help could have been readily availed. This reinstates my belief that at times of need, there are good friends on whom you can trust upon. That’s what this fake email taught me with this incident. :-)


Jul 15 2010

To the pissed-offs

To the pissed-offs

Recently I posted this comment in Facebook about the news that the BJP led Karnataka state government has banned cow slaughter. In India, fanatics of various religions always give us something to write about.

So the comment was this and it seems that some people got pissed off by it:

Holy Cow! It’s official now. You can’t eat beef in the BJP ruling Karnataka state anymore. The new-age Vegetarian converts, mostly consisting of people who took on Vegetarianism as part of Brahminical Elitism and who have already declared a ‘food casteism’, can now thrive upon this news. And BJP is silently forcing their communal agenda on the people of Karnatak state. Not that it surprises me.

And I wanted to say a couple of things to those who have been pissed off by my comment and pouring their anger on me throughout facebook. The pity is that they don’t even have the guts to quote my name in those pissed-off comments and make strange references.

So to them,

  • I do not hide my views and opinion under the rug, like you.
  • I do not think silence would help the cause of peace.
  • I do not think everybody who keeps silence on issues is a person who stands for harmony.
  • I think learning, thinking and writing/talking about is the first step towards changing something.
  • I do see your selective response on selected issues/comments. Do not think I am an idiot who cannot see your closet fundamentalism.
  • I do not have to express myself for “publicity”. I have had my fair share of media presence, even though I’ve never asked for it.
  • If I cared about popularity and publicity, I would just resort to singing in my blog, saying beautiful things that the public would agree upon, like you.
  • I will not trade my commonsense for your acquaintance. I already have a solid set of friends who understands me.

Now that I said all of these, I guess they can still get pissed off. :-)


Jun 9 2010

Social networking, in the real world

Social networking, in the real world

Web 2.0 has given us so many tools to keep in touch with each other. Thanks to Twitter, Facebook, Orkut, Foursquare etc, you know what is happening in your friend’s life, where he/she is standing right now, what he/she does or thinks right now and see the photo records. Then you can let others have a peek into what happens in your life too. BUT – does that really satisfy your need to interact with real people in real life?

I remember this once incident from a New Year’s eve an year back. I was single, all my friends have had other engagements or parties to attend and I had no one to keep me company to celebrate the New Year’s eve. And I felt so lonely. I logged into Gtalk, Twitter, Facebook and Orkut – but none of them seemed to matter and they just appeared to be a strange world. The whole virtual world seemed to be fake, an illusion without a human touch.

I had this thought particularly when a friend called me last Saturday and told me how lonely he felt that day as he was alone at home. He saw some of his old friends in the neighborhood and he said they also seemed to be lonely in a kind of way and he felt the need to network in the real world. Those neighbors were his childhood friends with whom he lost that touch in the course of time and he said now he understands the value of keeping a good network in the real world.

Sometimes, the virtual world seems to be throwing information overload (links! links! links!) and its kind of losing that personal touch that we all crave for. The vast network that it offers and the way it redefines the word “friend” (everyone you meet on the social networking sites is a “friend”) are beginning to seem very boring. And it makes me want to go back to that smaller world of friends that I had many years back. Smaller but thicker. These days, I am trying to spend an evening on every weekend with the childhood friends and it gives a lot of comfort and free air to spend time with them, sharing even idiotic things, laughing it off. It is so comforting. And when I see the rush of people to add more and more people to their friends list just to showcase “I’ve got N number of friends!“, I wish that they understood the value of networking with real people, in the real world. Or keeping in touch with the real thick friends they have, how small it might be in numbers.


May 9 2010

Amma

Amma

On this Mother’s Day and almost every other day, I thank God that I have this amazing woman as my Mother.

All photos were taken by my friend Thulasi Kakkat, on my wedding day.

Other posts on Amma:

A Circle of Life
The old woman in Chatta and Mundu
Women’s Day


Apr 7 2010

One man’s dream

One man’s dream

This happened many years back. It was the early hours of the night. I was sitting in the veranda with the earphones of the walkman plugged into my ears. Soft, soothing music flowed. I fell into a light sleep.

Then…

An empty beach in the twilight. Wind blows lightly. Soft piano tones.

There stands a woman, so beautiful, her white robe floats in the wind. She stands against me and smiles at me. A set of violins and cellos rises, with a light tone of flute. Music is heavenly.

Now she is walking along.

A hug. Eyes closed. Kiss.

Then rises a set of strings of violin and cello. Her fangs, goes deep into my neck, sucking off my blood.

Then I woke up. The music was almost over. Soft piano tones were playing to mark the end of the song. I sat there wondering what just happened. I wasn’t in a deep sleep. I could remember the melody which was being played, while having this dream. Yet, that dream, however short it was, felt so real. I took the album cover and searched for the song name. I read the song title in total awe – One Man’s Dream.

That was the first and only time that I can remember when music created a clear imagery while listening to a song.


Mar 18 2010

Mother this, Mother that

Mother this, Mother that

There is an English medium school to the back of our house. Same school where they did not give me admission because my family could not affor the admission fees back in those days. They are growing up pretty big, thanks to the increasing donations for admission and funding. Now they have several blocks, dedicated to CBSE & state syllabus and a teacher’s training school. As the school expanded, they needed to have more entrances than the main gate. So they started looking to buy off any available land/house from our street to build new gates to the school. One for kids who came by auto rickshaws, one for kids who walked on the way home and one for those who cycled back home.

The then principal of the school, a young Catholic priest who was later accused of buying vans for the school registered in his name, first approached our neighbor to see if they were willing to sell off their house to the school. They happily obliged and the priest gave them a good price for the house and the land. Later that house was brought down to ashes to make an entrance road to the school. But the road wasn’t wider enough. So they approached my elder brother one day and asked if we were willing to sell our house too. My brother said we wouldn’t. In our street, ours was the oldest and almost-falling-down-to-the-earth house. So the priest could not see any reason for why we poor fellows wouldn’t sell off their house for a very good price which was competent with the market price.

The priest approached my father secretly and asked the same thing. Father said No. When my brother came to know about this, he went straight to the principal priest’s cabin in the school and told him, “We were in this place for the past 60 years. This house was built by my father’s mother. This is our ancestral house and we are not planning to move from here. So stop approaching any one of our family with your price tags“. Priest stopped asking further (though the one who came after him tried another way of compelling us which we dealt with legally), I later took up the land from family, built a new house there and now staying with my family there.

When I look at it again now, it is not the count of years that makes me stay in that very same place. This is a house that my grandmother built with my father and his brothers. They built the entire house with the mud bricks and sandstone powder. My grandmother lived and died there (though I don’t have even a fainted memory of hers). My second brother lived in this house too, before he died at the age of 27 in a road accident and his body was brought into that very same house. This is family. There are emotions attached to this 5 cents of land. No power can ever buy that with their money, unless something real bad happens to our survival.

This is why I love that place. My home, because my family live in there. My street, because that is where our house is at. Our small semi-urban village, because that’s where our street is, my childhood friends are and the local community is with people whom I’ve known since my childhood. Thrissur, the city that I have grown up with it’s nooks and corners. Kerala, because Thrissur is a district in Kerala state. And my country India, because my state is part of this country and the people from our state have contributed significantly to build this country.

But the home town or home state changes to another form when it comes to define the country. It is not just home land, it is Mother land. I don’t understand what that means. Mother land? The country is seen as mother, we are taught. But why? A country is made of pieces of land and what makes us sentimental about it is because it hosts our home. If we were born and lived in America or Africa, that would be our home. When M F Hussain painted India as a nude woman, the fanatics and the so-called educated lot (I call them the qualified lot, because they are never educated in the word’s truest sense) came up in arms against him, asking if he would dare paint his Mother in nude form. Our nationalist blood boiled when we saw this piece of land as a nude woman. But we never raised much voices when girls were raped and killed in the very same mother land, just because they looked Chinese, though they were born in the same country. We had no problem in cutting the womb of a mother in this mother land, or killing the sons and daughters of other mothers in this mother land. Burning them. Raping them. But “insulting” a piece of land? That’s unbearable to us even when those killers and rapists walk among us.

Mother land, mother tongue… mother this… mother that… what do they mean really? What kind of conveniences or excuses do they give us? How are we assigning any meaning to them?

(Image courtesy: Focuswildlife.com)


Feb 10 2010

Married

Married

(Thaali, Manthrakodi and Rings – photo by Aashik)

Can’t believe it happened. Felt blessed to have got wedded in the presence of my closest friends. The doubts, the questions, all seem to be vanishing away. And then there are surprises. She finally sang to me. And she sings pretty much better than I expected. :-)


Jan 27 2010

On Jan 31st

On Jan 31st


Jan 22 2010

Engaged!

So the reason for my week-long hiatus from blogging is that I got engaged on last Saturday. Yeah! I got engaged. :-) It did not happen overnight, but I didn’t want to announce the news publicly because I messed it up last time. I did not even tell my friends until I was sure about it. And this time, am so sure about what I got.

But it is not a fairy tale love. Though she stays just 2 KMs away from my place, in Thrissur, it is an arranged marriage and we learn many things about each other as we talk every day. It is an interesting process. We have so many opposites on many fronts. And there are so many doubts in both of us about each other. When I crack a joke, am conscious to see if she takes it in the right spirit. When she talks, she seems to be wanting to give me the right impression too. But as we get to speak more, it’s becoming like, “okay, you don’t need to explain it“, and I see it as a positive sign.

I never have believed in an ‘ideal match’. I still don’t believe in it. I think it depends on the couple to understand each other and make compromises and that is what makes an ideal match. Compromises – individually, intellectually, materially and so on… We both are trying to do that. And in that process, we expect hard waters and hope to cruise through them together and understand each other better. So each day we have something new to learn.

Her name is Sony (shortened form of Soniya), and according to a friend “a singer and music fan couldn’t have found a match with a better name” and another friend said, “this is called Poetic Justice! You love music and you get a woman named SONY.:-) She loves music, yes, and she also likes to sing though she has not sung for me yet. She has promised she will, soon.

Am I excited? Yes, but also tensed a lot. In fact, I could not even sleep through the night before the engagement day as there were so many things haunting me personally. Not related to marriage, but on the personal/family front. I hope that all will be over soon. And I am teaching myself not to worry about things that I have no control over. I hope I can sail through the troubled waters and make things work for us. And make more music (I know it has been a long time since I posted a song here, but I promise more songs will flow after the marriage).

As for now, we need your prayers and blessings…


Jan 14 2010

Hey You!

Do you know how much it means to me when you talk?

When you talk with your sweet, stupid, nothings?

And how much that makes me smile?

And how much I want to be right beside you?

How much I am longing for a kiss, a hug, or just to keep looking into your eyes?

Do you?